Get Your Buzz Back

By Rebecca Ascher-Walsh

Revive your emotional energy with something you enjoy

The Energy Showdown: Relationships

Have the fight or avoid it? This is no time to bottle it up. "Any time I see people who don't fight, it's an indication they don't feel safe with each other," Dr. Sherman says. But keep it civilized, not just because your craziness is hurtful to him but also because feeling out of control is a huge energy suck. "Don't be disrespectful, don't name-call," she says. "Stay on the subject and present what's upsetting you in terms of your feelings, rather than attacking the other person."

Time with your women friends or time with your man? Call your favorite femmes ASAP. Hanging out with your friends is not only fun, it's good for you. Studies show strong relationships with other women improve our psychological and physical health. The added benefit: When you do see your guy, you'll already be feeling nurtured rather than needy, so you'll come to him at your best.

Talk to Mom or put it off? To decide, you've got to be honest about the nature of your relationship. If your mother nurtures you, enjoy an hour of being parented. Otherwise, remember that you're a grown-up who knows how to nurture herself--and then do it.

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